Change is an inevitable part of everyone’s life. No one can escape it. In India, the joint family structure is quickly disintegrating. It is being replaced by the nuclear family model.
A nuclear family includes kids, a wife, and a spouse – not sure if this disintegrates even further in future. A friend of mine was telling me that after 50 years, there will be no nuclear families too. There would be only you and me.
In our present generation of nuclear families, the youngsters leave their parent’s home when they get married or start earning. In a nuclear family, the association between wedded youngsters and guardians is less.
Nuclear Families in Western and Eastern Countries
In western countries like USA and Canada, children leave their parents home once they reach 18 years of age. In fact, most parents ask their children to leave the homes and live independently. This definitely is not happening in countries like India, China etc. yet.
Nuclear family setups are becoming more famous due to factors like increasing urbanization, changes in attitudes, the impact of westernization, the need for more privacy, and other factors. Financial independence is the core reason for the independent living behavior.
Adding to this, women wants to live independently from their husbands (even more nuclear) and are ready to even live alone without any partner as they are becoming capable to earn their livelihood and all other basic needs.
The nuclear family system is becoming popular due to these factors. However, this system is not perfect. In this article, we are going to talk about the merits and demerits of the nuclear family system.
Advantages of Nuclear Family System
Some of the main benefits of living in a nuclear family system are:
More privacy and freedom
A nuclear family will give more freedom and privacy to couples. This will ensure that couples can spend time together and understand each other needs. In the modern family system, couples can easily share their expectations of each other. Living in a nuclear family also means that couples will have more freedom in making decisions together.
Nuclear families generally have the financial stability to provide kids with luxuries, a safe environment, and opportunities. According to a report from the Pew Research Center, more than 57% of households with married parents are above the poverty line. Kids living in nuclear families are more likely to attend dance, music, and other types of classes. Children with these opportunities are more likely to experience social and academic success.
Couples can decide on the shared responsibilities in the household. The best way to bond is by doing activities and chores together. Everyone in the family should be involved in family matters. This will ensure that the family will feel responsible and understand how interdependent they are.
If you are living in a nuclear family system, then you can easily reach a decision. The two major players involved in any decision are the man and his wife. They can also take the opinions of their children. However, major decisions will be taken by two people only. Since there are only two people involved in the decision-making process it is easy to decide. Other members of the family like the parents of the couple are not involved in this process.
Sharing inheritance is easy
In a nuclear family, it is easy to share the properties after the death of one spouse. There is no extended family member who will battle for the possession of the deceased properties. Everything will go to the children of the surviving spouse. This eliminates the confrontation which occurs among family members when death occurs.
Disadvantages of Nuclear Family System
Some of the main demerits of living in a nuclear family system are:
Sensation of disconnection
Couples generally have chaotic plans for getting their work done. Sometimes couples don’t get time to spend with their kids. Due to this, the kids start spending their energy playing online games and watching TV. The presence of distant family members like an aunt or a grandparent is missed.
Problems with work-life balance
This is the biggest problem that is faced by couples that are aiming for growth in their professional and personal spheres. Working couples face situations like working to meet a deadline or a child falling sick. If there is an unequal partnership, then mothers will be the ones who will struggle to cope with it. Most nuclear families feel a lack of support during these situations.
Difficulty in solving conflicts
The nuclear family is generally small but it also has its own conflicts. In the absence of guidance and intervention from elders, the conflict can stay unresolved. This can affect your family relationships. It can affect the stability of your family.
Insecurity of children
In Some nuclear families both the wife and husband work. Due to this, the children are neglected. They are cared for by the maid or staff as the parents are busy with their professional work. Due to this, the children are insecure and lonely. If something happens to parents, then there is no one to support the children. Even in emergency situations like pregnancy, accident, or illness, the family members are neglected.
Parents become lonely
One of the main disadvantages of living in a nuclear family is that the parents will become lonely as they grow older. This happens when children become older and get married. Sometimes they can neglect the needs of their parents. If you are living in an extended family, then there will be a support system. This support system will be missing in a nuclear family.
There are both merits and demerits of living in a nuclear family. However, the final decision will ultimately depend on you and your partner. The nuclear family is still considered the best method to raise kids. There is no guarantee but it will at least make you independent and strong.